Moaning In The Bedroom - You Should Do It

In this episode, we explore the benefits of moaning during sex and foreplay. Moaning is a natural sound that can create a sense of intimacy and vulnerability between partners, transport us to a place of heightened sensory pleasure, and drop us into our core sexual energy. It's also a form of communication that tells your partner what feels good and what doesn't, resulting in a more pleasurable experience for both partners. However, faking a moan can set up miscommunication in the bedroom, so it's essential to own your moans and express your pleasure authentically. If you're feeling self-conscious about moaning, we provide some tips to help you gain confidence in your self-expression, including starting off with some mood lighting, talking to your partner ahead of time, incorporating different elements during foreplay, and practicing in front of the mirror. Tune in to discover how moaning can create a more pleasurable experience for both you and your partner.

• Sound = Important Role in Life
• Form of communication
• Faking = wrong road map!
• Tips for those feeling self-conscious

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[Phoebe] Want to know the benefits of moaning how moaning affects each partner whether or not you should fake it[Phoebe] How not to be self-conscious when you're making those noises[Guest] You're listening to Swinger University with Ed and Phoebe[Guest] Welcome to Swinger University. We're learning is fun and sexy[Guest] Here are your helps[Guest] Ed and Phoebe[Unknown] Before we get started let's thank our brand new patron Roy. Thank you very much for your support. We appreciate it[Phoebe] Sound is an important role in our lives when you listen to music[Phoebe] It moves you it makes you[Phoebe] You know empowered it can make you feel more angry or angsty it can make you feel sad it can make you feel joyous[Phoebe] Yeah, that feeling that you get when[Phoebe] Sound is being made is stimulating[Ed] Yeah, and the other interesting thing that sound will do is it will trigger memories and it will inspire those feelings and release[Ed] Those same endorphins and chemicals that your brain experience when you first had those feelings so[Ed] those first[Ed] Sexual experiences that you had where there was potentially a lot of noise[Ed] Your brain remembers that and it triggers those sensations all over again[Phoebe] You know, we have a good friend that calls up the playlist and when he[Phoebe] When that playlist starts playing in his brain it starts getting everything going for him right[Phoebe] Moaning creates intimacy and closeness[Phoebe] It it's a form of communication between you and your partner. It's a form of communication with yourself[Phoebe] it actually[Phoebe] You on as well, not just your partner[Phoebe] It transports us to a state of heightened sensory pleasure with no distractions and really drops us into our[Phoebe] core of[Phoebe] sexual energy[Phoebe] it relieves that[Phoebe] daily stress and[Phoebe] We just focus on[Unknown] Flesher[Ed] Yeah, it's a really important way for your brain to kind of focus on what is at hand and it[Ed] It does it removes all of those distractions because it kind of tunes you to the situation[Ed] And gets your brain focused on what's going on[Phoebe] Yeah, and actually when I think back to to my days of therapy when when you're[Phoebe] You're trying to get out of your head and[Phoebe] Analyze, you know, whatever issue is going on that you're trying to resolve in your life[Phoebe] And you just get down to that core emotion or feeling once you leave[Phoebe] Like the multitude of words and sentences and you kind of just get down to sound[Ed] It has a very therapeutic and kind of cathartic cathartic feeling. Yeah, so sound really is[Phoebe] Very very critical to our being as humans[Ed] So while making sound in moaning[Ed] We'll we'll phrase it this way[Unknown] real moaning actual[Ed] pleasure[Ed] triggers those feelings[Ed] Faking it actually might be sending your brain the wrong message[Phoebe] If you're faking it your partner doesn't know[Phoebe] What really feels good to you and so[Phoebe] You've just given them signals and communication that really is not beneficial to either one of you because your partner does truly deeply want to please you[Phoebe] And you deserve to be pleased so it's[Phoebe] It's it's not good to fake you think you're doing a good thing, but it's not[Ed] Yeah, in a sense it's like giving a stranger directions to the wrong place[Ed] Right because you're telling them this is good when it's really[Ed] Probably not that good because you're having to fake it[Ed] So it's probably better to just verbalize what you would like to happen instead or give them a little direction to the left to the right harder softer[Ed] And not just fake the moan to try and get it over with unless you are trying to get it over with[Ed] Yes, and we have heard stories about that too where it's just like[Ed] I'm done. We gotta get out of here. I don't want to hurt this person's feelings[Guest] I came we're over[Unknown] Roll over[Ed] But the other thing that it's doing too is because you're so focused on that fake dialogue that fake communication[Unknown] You're[Ed] You're in your head[Ed] You're not thinking about what's going on. So if anything you're[Ed] Actually making the situation worse for yourself because you can't even enjoy the little bit of pleasure that they might be having because you're having this internal monologue[Phoebe] Like talking about baseball and you may also want to think about why you're faking it, right? There's a reason for everything[Phoebe] Is it a confidence issue? Is it shame? Is it something that maybe you might benefit talking through with somebody[Phoebe] You know, maybe some therapy or some coaching[Phoebe] There's a ton of of sex coaches out there right now and really great therapists out there that are tuned into[Phoebe] To sex positive, you know behaviors and between couples and lifestyle[Phoebe] A stuff as well. So you may want to consider that and if you are feeling self-conscious[Phoebe] Here are some tips for you that can help[Ed] Think about why you're self-conscious if you're self-conscious because of[Ed] Maybe physical appearance. Maybe you have some body image issues[Ed] Think about how you can light the room to maybe help with a little bit of that[Ed] Dim the lights a little bit use colored lights a red lights actually very flattering for most people skin tones[Ed] And it kind of sets that sexy[Ed] I don't check a wow wow mood[Phoebe] Yeah, having those cool lights. It sets the stage for we are going to just focus on us now or not just[Phoebe] An afterthought after dinner or something. We've set time aside to prepare for this[Phoebe] You know intimate interaction that we are going to do together. So the lighting is kind of crucial for that[Ed] I think I love it[Ed] It's it's almost like that visualization that you go through when you when you're competing where you keep talking about it[Ed] It's like an internal dialogue, but here's an external[Ed] The room is prepared and everything is kind of leading up to that. Yes. Yes[Phoebe] And talk to your partner for support too[Phoebe] You know have those intimate conversations. I would say probably outside of the bedroom[Phoebe] Would be best to have this type of conversation with your partner and say you know when we when we're together[Phoebe] Um, you know, I really want to try this one. We're really self-conscious about about this[Phoebe] aspect right and and you can talk that through before you get to the bedroom and it[Phoebe] To kind of take some of the pressure off of that particular moment[Phoebe] And we're prepared going into it the next time you want to experiment[Ed] Another really exciting thing to try to inspire that new relationship energy with your partner[Ed] Is to try something different. I mean you read cosmopolitan and all those magazines and they're like try something new and fresh in the bedroom[Ed] Well[Ed] Yeah, try something new and fresh in the bedroom something that you've never done with your partner if it's getting[Ed] Typical if it's getting routine then break up the routine[Ed] Try feathers try massage oil try leather straps try[Ed] Kitchen implements maybe a spatula maybe something[Unknown] fun and different[Ed] You never know it may just be the right thing to set off a whole new set of feelings and sensations[Phoebe] Yeah, anything to kind of kick off[Phoebe] Something new and different right that's going to inspire you to be vocal. That's the key right[Phoebe] The other thing that I would encourage you to do is mirror practice[Phoebe] It can be incredibly uncomfortable. I'm not gonna lie[Phoebe] But it's really really good[Phoebe] Take some time to stand in front of the mirror you can do it closed first[Phoebe] But I would encourage you to do it naked as well[Phoebe] and start[Phoebe] Moaning just start moaning and laugh at yourself because it's kind of feel awkward and you're gonna think you look stupid[Phoebe] But then eventually if you keep doing it you will[Phoebe] Feel your body kind of just drop into your sexual energy in that power and you'll start to feel different trust me and[Phoebe] then[Phoebe] The more you do it, it'll just start to feel more natural because anything you do repetitively[Phoebe] Feels more natural and so I would encourage you to try that[Phoebe] Don't just do it once. I mean this is gonna take a little bit of practice[Phoebe] But it will give you that confidence and you'll get used to hearing what you sound like first before you[Phoebe] Do that in front of somebody else and maybe that will help and and this is a[Ed] Little bit different than the previous faking it. This is faking it till you make it in a sense[Ed] It's conditioning you to be comfortable with[Ed] Your own vocalizations you making sound and and not[Ed] Not feeling embarrassed because you're making noises right. It's okay[Ed] You're having fun. You're playing with yourself. So to speak in front of the mirror[Ed] Or you could be playing with yourself in front of the mirror and making noises which would also work very well right[Phoebe] So you know in conclusion you in moaning during foreplay and sex can be very very powerful and it's a great form of communication[Phoebe] For yourself and for your partner[Phoebe] It creates that heightened sensory experience for the both of you own your mones[Phoebe] And remember to communicate with your partner[Phoebe] explore together[Phoebe] And create a more pleasurable experience[Unknown] Oh one last thing before you go if this episode helped you in any way[Ed] The single best thing you can do to support the show is leaving a rating and review[Ed] It takes 60 seconds and helps new people find us when they're searching for relationship education[Ed] And we've made it easy[Ed] Visit SwingerUniversity.com forward slash review[Ed] All the instructions are there[Ed] Thank you for being part of this community[Ed] We'll see you again soon